The Intouchables

Today, I wanna introduce you a french movie which called "The Intouchables". 

It is talking about the strong friendship between patient and caretaker. The protagonist, Philippe, an aristocratic and intellectual quadriplegic millionaire; and Driss, an African live in poor district. Philippe is interviewing candidates for the position of his carer  and Driss cut the lines of candidates and brings a document from the Social Security and asks Phillipe to sign it to prove that he is seeking a job position so he can receive his unemployment benefit. Philippe challenges dirss, offering him a trial period of one month to gain experience helping him. Then Dirss can decide whether he want to stay with him or not. Driss accepts the challenge, changing the boring life of Philippe. 

It is a touching film, but it is not so sentimental. Philippe's life was boring before Driss step into his world. No one dare to break the original and same all the way of the rules of Philippe, but Driss did it. He teach Phipippe to enjoy his life and try something new. He inject a new source of happiness into Philippe 's life! Philippe 's friend worry about him of hiring Dirss, an African who came from poor community. He said these kind of people do not have any pity. But Philippe said to him, "That's what I want , no pity." 

Sometimes, we would think we must show our sympathy to those disabled people or homeless people. But is it really what they want? Have you ever think about it? The help and sympathy you gave was that they need?

Every one have self-esteem. No one want show their weakness to others. You mark them as a weak people as you show your pity to them. There were some people was scolded by disabled people when they were trying to help them or show their sympathy look. 

There was a research said that many disabled people, such as patient and homeless people, they just want you treat them as normal people. They will feel uncomfortable if you show too much caring or pity for them. 

So, next time, if you bump into a disabled people, do not rush to show your sympathy or help them. Oppositely, treating them as normal people and asking them," what you need?" Sometimes you gave them the thing that you think they need but maybe that was not what they need.